Question:
Have you ever noticed that some people can walk into a room and effortlessly make friends with everyone they meet, whether it's at work, sales events, or business gatherings?
This incredible ability often seems mysterious to those who struggle to form connections, but the secret lies in a simple technique employed by individuals of a certain personality type and we will show you how to use that technique in this video.
By embracing this approach, even those of us who find it challenging to connect with others can transform their social experiences in both personal and professional settings, and can learn to build lasting friendships and fruitful business relationships with ease.
Personality Types:
The ability to make friends and connect with others is a valuable skill that is the sole domain of a particular personality type, they naturally do this and are often extremely successful in their relationships.
Green personality trait individuals excel in this area, as they view relationships as the most important aspect of life.
By adopting the green personality trait's approach, you can enhance your social life and become a well-liked individual.
Green personality trait individuals naturally possess a genuine interest in others and prioritise building connections.
On the other hand, yellows focus on having fun and may not prioritise effective communication and will abandon a conversation if a shiny object of fun gets their attention.
Reds, being task-oriented, see interpersonal skills as less important and see it as getting in the way of a task that needs to be completed, so they struggle to listen if they have something they want to get done.
While blues, who concentrate on data, may struggle to relate to others on a personal level as they are not interested in the other person's feelings, but the accuracy of the data and will often feel compelled to correct the other person's story, which will alienate them.
By implementing the green personality trait's simple technique, you can make friends effortlessly and become a popular figure in various situations, including sales, networking, or just everyday conversations.
The Foundational Principle:
If you want to make friends you have to be friendly, this means taking that risk, make the first move and initiating a friendly conversation.
This attitude is foundational and has to be kept at the front of your intellect in all your conversations.
Meditate on this for days, even weeks, until it becomes a natural part of your thinking, train your mind to think this way, !
Now some people are miserable, so be prepared to be rebuffed, but that is a ‘them’ problem, not a ‘you’ problem.
If they rebuff your offer of friendship, move on, there are plenty of other people out there who will respond.
The Five Steps:
Here are the five steps to help you adopt the green personality trait approach and enhance your ability to make friends:
Step 1: Be A Good Listener
Show genuine interest in others by actively listening when someone shares their story or experiences.
In sales, the most successful salespeople tend to be the best listeners, they are the ones who have learnt to get the potential customer to talk and reveal their values, so they can sell to those values!
In friendship, the listener is the one everyone turns to for advice and support, when they need a private ear.
So to be a good listener, pay full attention and maintain eye contact, making the person feel valued and appreciated.
Step 2: Summarise and Confirm Understanding:
After they've finished sharing, briefly summarise their story back to them and ask if you've understood it correctly.
This demonstrates your attentiveness and investment in understanding their perspective.
Step 3: Share a Brief Common Experience:
Connect by sharing a concise, relatable story or experience of your own, illustrating that you have something in common.
Step 4: Redirect the Conversation Back to Them:
Quickly steer the conversation back to the other person by asking a specific question about a detail in their story.
This keeps the focus on them and shows genuine interest in learning more.
Step 5: Encourage and Support:
Nod and smile to express agreement or understanding as they continue talking, encouraging them to open up further and feel comfortable sharing with you.
By keeping the conversation focused on them, they'll see you as the greatest conversationalist and someone they enjoy talking to.
Give it a try:
Embrace the green personality trait's approach and apply these five simple steps in your daily interactions to effortlessly make friends with people.
You'll find that genuine interest and fostering connections draw others to you and make them appreciate your presence.
Give this technique a try for a month and watch your social and business life flourish!